When I worked with just a few of these tools with one person the results were more than astonishing. In one year this person reached three of his major life goals while we had together estimated five. Why shouldn’t you achieve the same ?
After you have read through this article you will be twice as likely to reach your dreams, visons or goals. Given what we know today once you apply these tools I believe you will have a 95% chance to achieve your major goals in life.
It was a few years ago when the person came into my office. He was almost certain that he would quit his job because he had enough of sales. It was not his dream job. He felt tired and he had lost his passion. His intention was to join a business school fulltime, spend all his savings to major in marketing so that he could start a career in the marketing function. I listened intensively without judgement and asked questions when I needed to better understand the points he made. We sat together for 50 minutes and almost at the end of the meeting I said,” well, it seems that you have made up your mind, but is this the only option you have ? Is this the only way and what is the likelyhood of success ? Would you like to take the time to explore more options that will give you a much higher chance of success ?”. This was the moment he realized he came to have the meeting with me to just seek confirmation of his decision and not help. This was the moment when he suddenly started to listen. First I explained him the risk of his only option and then I asked him if working in marketing is his final dream in life or if it was an enabler for something bigger ?
I proposed him to find a better way to get him to the place where he really wanted to be in life if he would spend just a few hours over the next months together with me. We applied a few of the tools which helped him to become very clear what he wanted from life. It was not only a career in marketing, he also had the wish to work abroad, stay with the current employer and get married.
We met three times over the next month for only 60 minutes each.
One year later he got married, the current employer send him to Asia to work in marketing and paid for the tuition at a well known business school for his degree in marketing.
In essence good reflection takes only little time but gets you much further than we tend to believe.
I have seen these successes over and over again in my many years long career in talent management & people development and as a coach (www.linkedin.com/in/peterpalme) . Each time I am still astonished. It is magic. The method and tools are amazing. I let the person decide on the timing when to meet again and never will I judge or take the lead in the journey. It only works if the true person comes out and the true person goes through his own reflection. In my many years of experience I learned to become the sparring partner on the right level, that keeps the ball in the game. Seeing someone win, seeing someone reach his vision and goals is personally my biggest joy and fulfillment.
I didn’t have the book “Finding Your Element” by Sir Ken Robinson then. It is a great source and therefore I listed some of the resources below. I have also used additonal tools which I will go to introduce over the next couple of weeks in this blog post. My starting point is always the situation, the context the person is in and get a full understanding of it. Often this is the first time people talk to someone who is non-judgemental about it. Only then when everything is understood will I ask the person to take a helicopter view of his life. Afterwards there are a number of tools to become more specific who the person is and how he wants to go about the journey.
As we haven’t met personally I have made the following assumption about you as the reader:
– you feel like you are underutilizing your capacity and have not turned it fully to your advantage
– you are critical of yourself and you deserve to be admired more
– at certain times you have serious doubts if you have taken the right direction in life
– you feel insecure and you see your personal weaknessess which you like to hide
– you can become dissastified by restrictions and limitations
– you would like to change and add more variety to your life
– you are an independent thinker and you only accept statements with satisfactory proof
– you have great aspirations which you find pretty unrealistic and you need to provide security to yourself and others
If you agree or disagree with my assumptions you can reach out me at email@example.com or leave a comment below.
Would you like to invest a few minutes of your precious life and turn it into something that you value much more ?
Being in your element, feeling engaged, having a purpose, …
In the following you find a number of tools:
You can use them on your own or with somebody you trust.
How many books have you read with exercises, but honestly how many of these exercises did you do on your own?
It seems most people like to do exercises with someone else because they are more engaged, get more inspired and creative.
This is still my scrabble blog post, it will envolve over time:
Accept the situation you are in. Become mindful and understand your judgement.
Start with the end in mind
Question For You To Find Your Element:
Getting Started With the Element Workbook:
27 Questions to Find Your Passion Workbook:
Tags: Sir Ken Robinson